Before5am | The Daily Agenda

Heal yourself by giving yourself a chance to forgive your past expectations of others and life.
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So much of our pain comes from the very things we have little or no control over.
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Many times in my own life, I’ve been let down by others or how they view me or the world or a certain situation. Many times my greatest pain has been caused by my own false expectations of others.
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But over the years, I learnt that I am only ever in control of my own being and how I choose to see things and act. I started to understand that I can only ever set my own expectations, for myself and my life.
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When you help people through much of the pain and trauma they go through on a daily basis, you start to see trends and you start to see just how much grief is caused by the false expectations of others or external forces.
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Monday to Sunday, I find myself trying to help people look at a situation or problem through a fresh set of eyes and a new perspective. It’s not always easy, especially when your nervous system has already decided exactly how let down and disappointed you already are by the actions, words and feelings of others.
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If you want to heal yourself and move forward. Let go of the expectations you have for others, more often then not you will be let down, because their expectations and values may very well be different to yours.
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Forgive yourself for being so foolish to try and control what you ultimately have no control over and allow your heart to forgive those who may have let you down or moved in a very different direction to you and your desires for them.
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Change your expectations of others, be fair, be gentle and be flexible in your approach and ultimately you won’t be so hurt in the future.
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That doesn’t mean you have to lower your expectations or standards for your life, it just means you have to be wise enough to allow others to go on their own unique journey and find out for themselves.
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Let go of your past pains and expectations and look up ahead, because everything you want is out in front of you.

- Joe

Originally Written by Joe Duncan