It's easy to look at all the things you're doing wrong. But don't forget to look at all of the things you're doing right.
If you're going to beat yourself up for all the things you're doing wrong, then you better reward yourself for all the things you are doing right!
I can tell you right now, that you are getting many more things right, than you are getting things wrong.
But, I guess it's only natural to be hard on yourself and be overly critical of your results and performance, but you have to learn to be fair with yourself and how you measure your actual performance.
We all spend so much time focusing on what we haven't got right or what we haven't achieved that we forget that we have accomplished a hell of a lot.
Every single one of you is doing a tremendous job, you might not be there yet and you might be going through some pretty tough times but the truth is you're still moving forward and you're still getting many things right.
So over the weekend, I want you to take a step back and just look at all the things you are getting right, all the skills you have developed and knowledge and understanding you have now that you didn't have a year or so ago.
Take a look at all the things you are proficient in, they may be major tasks and skills or they may be minor things that no one else notices.
I want you to write down all the things you are doing right and have mastered and see for yourself how accomplished you are becoming and how much you have going for you.
If all you focus on is what you aren't, what you haven't got and how badly you are doing then you're not being fair to yourself and that's a recipe for unnecessary stress, depression, burn out and illness somewhere down the line.
You've got to take the good with the bad, that means you have to celebrate and reward yourself for the things you are doing right and making progress on. If you're not sure how that works then take a look at how we train puppies and teach our children, with positive reinforcement rather than beating them up every time they get things wrong.
I want to see some long lists by the end of the weekend, because you are doing many great things and once you start to see that for yourself, you will start to believe in yourself a little more and start to build even more momentum.
Originally written by Joe Duncan
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